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Leave the Gizmodo OKCupid girl alone!

Oh my god, my nerdy, wonderful and intelligent friends…back the fuck off this girl. If I had gone on a date with someone who’s whole life revolved around their fraternity and college football team—someone who now was on a professional football team—someone who also took them to a creepy one-act play about a murderer—and someone with whom I felt no sexual spark—and I told you I wish I had known from his profile that he was a professional football player because it would have made things less awkward, you would NOT fault me.

There’s nothing in this essay that suggests that she went on a second date because she wanted to mock him. She even states at the end (did you read that far?):

Maybe I’m an OKCupid asshole for calling it that way. Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past Jon’s world title. I’ll own that. But there’s a larger point here: that judging people on shallow stuff is human nature; one person’s Magic is another person’s fingernail biting, or sports obsession, or verbal tic. No online dating profile in the world is comprehensive enough to highlight every person’s peccadillo, or anticipate the inane biases that each of us lugs around. There’s no snapshot in the world that can account for our snap judgments.

So those of you who are complaining, “What a bitch, she doesn’t like Magic,” sit the fuck down. We all have our deal-breakers. For those of you saying, “This just highlights how finicky online dating has let us become,” sit the fuck down. SHE ALREADY MAKES THE SAME POINT.

I’ve read the article twice now and while I doubt I’d ever be this girl’s friend IRL, that doesn’t mean she’s a bitch. Bottom line is the World Champion of Magic couldn’t offer enough to this girl outside of being the World Champion of Magic to make her see past that one huge quirk. Dating is rough for everyone. The heart wants what the heart wants and the body doesn’t want what the body doesn’t want. Sometimes it’s not personal. Sometimes it’s just a matter of not liking card games. 

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Okay, does Hillstone suck, or is just me? (or is it just because I’m a girl?)

I was told that I would have to vamoosh for at least an hour during lunch today. There’s an A/C unit above my desk that needed to be replaced. Fun, right? Well, it’s raining, so I couldn’t go on my usual afternoon walk. That also means that I couldn’t use my extra lunch time to go shopping or anything fun. So, I made an executive decision to suck it up financially and go to Hillstone for lunch. I could sit at the bar, have a diet coke, eat a good meal and stay out of the rain for an hour. 

I really wish I had never gone to Hillstone. (Bad food and possibly sexist and racist service to follow…)

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I realize I’m about 10 years too late on this rant, but still. Renee Zellweger as Bridget Jones is NOT overweight. Bridget Jones is NOT fat. She’s just not emaciated. She doesn’t look that great throughout the film because for most of the movie she is put in terribly unflattering clothes. Also, if Renee Zellweger gained 20 lbs to portray Bridget Jones, then that is scary. I’m not trying to body snark Renee Zellweger, but seriously. 
*end rant*
*am spending the night in and Bridget Jones’s Diary is on tv*

I realize I’m about 10 years too late on this rant, but still. Renee Zellweger as Bridget Jones is NOT overweight. Bridget Jones is NOT fat. She’s just not emaciated. She doesn’t look that great throughout the film because for most of the movie she is put in terribly unflattering clothes. Also, if Renee Zellweger gained 20 lbs to portray Bridget Jones, then that is scary. I’m not trying to body snark Renee Zellweger, but seriously. 

*end rant*

*am spending the night in and Bridget Jones’s Diary is on tv*

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“It’s interesting; a lot of women who are successful in comedy are lesbians. Or they have a fluid kind of gender identity, like I do. I am very fluid in that capacity. [Cho has had relationships with both men and women. She is currently married to a man.] But you can’t really be a successful female comic if you give a s**t what guys think at all. So a lot of heterosexual women end up dropping out because they just care too much about what guys think. I think that’s why there’s always lesbians who take over because they don’t care. It’s just an element to their personalities that helps them get by.
 
Cho has a point that women, especially heterosexual women, are socialized to seek approval at all times, and that can get in the way of comedy, which is all about no holds barred.” - Jezebel.com
What the…??? I don’t even… Wow….
So the whole “ladies in comedy” thing has been on my mind a lot lately.  It comes up in conversation with people all the time. I’m honestly at the point where I don’t know anymore if I’m truly at a disadvantage in the industry or if being a girly girl is a strength.  I wrote this big long rant and deleted it.  It just infuriates me that it’s more often than not other women who seem to want to measure me as a comic based on the length of my skirt.
Also, for a real mindfuck, click on the source link on jezebel and see what the photo the original article had matched to Cho.     

It’s interesting; a lot of women who are successful in comedy are lesbians. Or they have a fluid kind of gender identity, like I do. I am very fluid in that capacity. [Cho has had relationships with both men and women. She is currently married to a man.] But you can’t really be a successful female comic if you give a s**t what guys think at all. So a lot of heterosexual women end up dropping out because they just care too much about what guys think. I think that’s why there’s always lesbians who take over because they don’t care. It’s just an element to their personalities that helps them get by.

Cho has a point that women, especially heterosexual women, are socialized to seek approval at all times, and that can get in the way of comedy, which is all about no holds barred.” - Jezebel.com

What the…??? I don’t even… Wow….

So the whole “ladies in comedy” thing has been on my mind a lot lately.  It comes up in conversation with people all the time. I’m honestly at the point where I don’t know anymore if I’m truly at a disadvantage in the industry or if being a girly girl is a strength.  I wrote this big long rant and deleted it.  It just infuriates me that it’s more often than not other women who seem to want to measure me as a comic based on the length of my skirt.

Also, for a real mindfuck, click on the source link on jezebel and see what the photo the original article had matched to Cho.     

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I hate how there aren’t a lot of women writers in Late Night right now. However, I also hate how these women writers act as though Star Trek, Star Wars, comic books and LOTR are somehow unfeminine topics. Tina Fey even once said (paraphrasing) that women writers care about character and relationships, and men like ninjas and robots. Pardon me, but I subscribe to Vogue AND I have longbox full of hundreds of Marvel and DC comics underneath my bed.  I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here, only that comic books sure as hell aren’t the thing that’s keeping women out of comedy writing rooms.  Let’s try again, shall we?

I hate how there aren’t a lot of women writers in Late Night right now. However, I also hate how these women writers act as though Star Trek, Star Wars, comic books and LOTR are somehow unfeminine topics. Tina Fey even once said (paraphrasing) that women writers care about character and relationships, and men like ninjas and robots. Pardon me, but I subscribe to Vogue AND I have longbox full of hundreds of Marvel and DC comics underneath my bed.  I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here, only that comic books sure as hell aren’t the thing that’s keeping women out of comedy writing rooms.  Let’s try again, shall we?